Ahoy hoy. Practicing getting up really early.
Also I meant to say, the great mystery of why my mother is like the way she is has been solved. Basically years ago, not long after I was born she had an affair, and my dad forgave her. Why he did that I have no idea. But since he did that, she is constantly reminded of what a bitch she is just by his and our presence. And my mothers typical reaction when in the prescience of someone she wronged is not to apologise but to attack and insult them for making
her feel bad. Basically the fact that she knows deep down that she is the bad guy drives her over the edge because in her mind she can do no wrong. She thinks that just because her own parents died when she was young she should be sympathised with fully at
all times and that this is an excuse for her to be a bitch basically.
Like with me and money. Her train of thought goes 'wow, I emotionally blackmailed or outright stole money of my own son. He hates me for it. I can see it in his eyes. That makes me feel bad...how
dare he make
me feel bad about that. I am his mother he should be singing my praises not looking at me like I'm a piece of shit. When I was his age my parents were dead so he should be grateful that I'm still here. I needed that money more than he ever did anyway. Well I'm not going to let him do that to me I'm going to fight back. And who the hell does he think he is saying he wants to make something of himself anyway. Is that some sort of crack at me? Am I not something because I dropped out of school asap and have zero qualifications? My bastard son is putting me down for that with his high marks and going to Uni, the smug bastard.
So yeah in short, because she's been constantly eating herself up over her own self hatred at her long list of personal wrongs and failures, that is why she acts like she does. That and she's more or less an alcoholic too. Now she would say that we did nothing to ever help her. Well it's hard to help somebody when they try to punch your face in for suggesting that they have problems in the first place. Oh my mother is one of those people who both constantly lies and actually believes her own lies. There's a name for it but it escapes me atm.
Sorry I had to get this off my chest. It's what I found out yesterday that's shocked me (yet it all makes sense). Although I've come up with this theory myself.
I feel now like I only ever bring strife into this thread. I apologise for it.
edited 19th Jun '13 12:07:19 AM by ApplelightLimited